Hello Dr. Chen,
It has been awhile since I have spoken to you. I wanted to let you know what has been happening and that I am making a fresh start. My husband filed for divorce last spring. I have been staying home and caring for my family and animals.
Before I completed treatment, you met with both of us. After meeting him, you said he struggled with sexual addiction. I have had time to think about this comment and believe that you are right. I have been trying to figure out how you knew. His addictive behavior went on right in front of me for years. It has truly taken me a very long time to put all the pieces together.
When I figured out that I hated having sex with him, is when everything started to make sense. It wasn’t that I disliked sex, but I didn’t like the uncomfortable lack of communication and connection with him. He was so preoccupied with himself that he couldn’t be available for me.
I want to let you know that you really have helped me cope with my life and this crazy situation. I have been trying to move on and am preparing for one more big change. I am moving to a new community for a fresh start.
Thank you for being there when I needed you!