In the book, Learning to Dance in the Rain, the Power of Gratitude, Mac Anderson and BJ Gallagher discuss ways to develop the gratitude habit. They believe that if you do something for 21 days, then it will become a habit. They think that you can set a goal to bring more gratitude into your life. They provide a list of suggestions on how to develop the skill of gratitude.
Before you go to bed at night, write down three things you are grateful for. Don’t write down obvious things like home, friends, pets, and family. Look deep for subtle things that you may take for granted.
On your way to work or school, notice three to five things that you are grateful for along the way. For example, being grateful to have transportation, good roads, competent drivers, nice community to live in, et cetera.
While you are at work notice a few things about your job, boss, coworkers, or company that you appreciate.
While you are running errands or doing chores, see if you can find gratitude for things while in the process.
When you are doing things you don’t enjoy, see if you can find something to be grateful for.
These don’t have to be big things, they can be little things. The more you train your mind to look for positive things, rather than negative things, the more gratitude you will experience throughout the day.
Dr. Christiane Northrup a women’s health and wellness expert says, “Feeling grateful or appreciative of someone or something in your life actually attracts more of the things that you appreciate and value into your life.”
Do these habit forming exercises for 21 days and see if they make a difference in your daily life. Over time, you will have the opportunity to integrate the gratitude habit into your every day life.