Communicating, But Not Confiding

Today people can communicate with others much more easily than in the past, but we don’t confide in others. We can call our friends or family day or night throughout most of the world. We can send emails, skype and drop box messages through the internet. We can text on our phones or put posts on various social media outlets. We can also talk face to face to others. Even though we have many ways to communicate and connect with others, sadly many people feel alone.

In a recent article by Allison Sadlier of SWNS, she sites new research conducted by OnePoll on behalf of BetterHelp. The study surveyed 2,000 Americans and found that approximately 1 in 4 Americans think they have no one to confide in. The respondents had various reasons for not confiding in others. Approximately 9 in 10 people admitted to downplaying emotions so they would not worry a loved one. About 7 in 10 were uncomfortable and held back how they really felt from a coworker, friend or partner.

People’s ages made a difference in how they responded to the survey. Young adults ages 18-30 were more withdrawn and uncomfortable discussing money, job stress, parents or friends with a partner. People age 50 and over were more comfortable when discussing these topics.

The people who had difficulty expressing themselves to others had more trouble sleeping, bad focus, short temper and poor eating habits. Around 3 in 10 were more prone to crying spells.

Even though many people believe they have no one to talk to and suffer with stressors, they are hesitant to seek help.

Therapy can be very helpful for anyone who feels disconnected or stressed. Therapy is designed to help people develop better coping skills to deal with challenges.

However, there are many reasons why people don’t seek help. Unfortunately, there is still some stigma surrounding going to therapy. For example, some people are too embarrassed or don’t want others to know what they are dealing with. One in four participants didn’t think their troubles were “serious enough” to warrant talking to someone. Some people are misinformed and think that therapy is only used to work through significant trauma.

What people need to know is that counseling can greatly improve anyone’s mental health. Having someone to talk to who is interested in your welfare can have a positive impact and make life much less stressful.  People truly can benefit from communicating and confiding in others.

1 in 4 Americans feel they have no one to confide in (SWNS Research)